Let Me Serve You

November 2, 2015

Two days ago my husband and I celebrated five years of marriage, going on ten years of being together. Anniversaries are precious because they give us the opportunity to sit down and reflect on the past year. It really is my favorite because you get to see the many triumphs and trials the Lord has faithfully walked you through. Such a beautiful reminder of His constant grace, which we all know we need in relationships.

At our wedding ceremony, my husband and I washed each other’s feet to symbolize our commitment to humbly serve one another. That moment was so precious and one of my favorite memories of our entire wedding day. As I knelt down before the Lord and my husband on April 9th, 2010, I can honestly say I had no idea what that was supposed to look like. These past five years of marriage have made this picture become clearer and clearer.

It seems so simple to just serve someone you love so dearly. But let’s be real with ourselves for a quick second: We are selfish people. You realize this the moment you move in with each other. You like the sheets tucked in tight, he likes them all the way out. You begin to quickly see that you have to meet in the middle. Once you start getting it somewhat down, why not throw some kids in there. Oh boy, now your life really gets turned up. Somehow a little 6lb-11oz human being comes into your world and shakes it up like a snow globe.

Sometimes we take so much time watching what the other person is or isn’t doing when we could just be helping each other out. Maybe instead of tallying what each other did we could just serve. What if we chose to serve each other without expectations, paybacks, or wanting a pat on the back? Could simply serving each other clean up so much of the messy parts of relationships?

Lately the Lord has been convicting me to stop and look in the mirror and ask what is the root of not serving well? It’s not pretty to face, but unfortunately, it is a result of my focus being off. I have had to ask myself: What am I more focused on, my relationship with my husband or my Savior? When my marriage becomes an idol, I look to my husband to fill my heart in a way that only God can. When my marriage comes before God, I come to the marriage empty, looking to be served, rather than full and ready to serve. My perspective becomes more self-centered rather than selfless. On the contrary, when God is my supreme treasure and primary relationship, my marriage falls into place as it should. Then I come to my husband with an eternal perspective and with an eager desire to see him become more like Jesus. When my love tank is filled primarily by God as a result of intimacy with Him, I naturally find myself filled with Divine energy, power, and eagerness to serve my husband, seeking his best even at great personal cost.

In the book of John, Jesus made it very clear that washing each other’s feet was very important to him. That humbling himself to his knees was a way to show love and respect for one another. Jesus was the example and called his disciples to go and do likewise. If our Savior can get on his knees and wash someones feet, why can’t we? What a humbling picture to think of Jesus on his knees sweetly washing the disciples feet. When we understand His ultimate servant’s heart, this has to urge us to do the same, right?! When our eyes are on Jesus, we are able to experience His pure love for us. When we live in this love, it becomes so much easier to serve selflessly. Living in His love is the firm foundation to consistently and selflessly serve.

Now is the call to action. Find some ways that you can tangibly serve. Something that has helped me serve my husband more is to make a list of ways I know will help him. It can be as simple as taking out the trash instead of asking or waiting for him to do it. The Lord has been challenging my heart to strive to serve in these ways:

  • Serve humbly
  • Serve quietly
  • Serve sweet- Spirited
  • Serve joyfully
  • Serve with no strings attached.

Praying that each of us can press into Jesus and truly see the Greater mission for our marriages and lives; by serving one another, we are pushing each other closer to Jesus. Once we take our primary focus off of the temporal, we are able to strive towards the eternal.

“Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under His power, and that He had come from God and was returning to God; so He got up from the meal, took off His outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around His waist. After that, He poured water into a basin and began to wash His disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around Him.” (John 13:3-5).